Do We Have Control Over How Well We Age?

A few years back my husband and I set out for a round of golf and found ourselves paired up with another twosome, as is often the case. As we headed to the number one tee a man approached us and explained that we would be golfing with his 85-year-old mother who was playing her first round post hip surgery. “I don’t think she will slow you down, though”. He added. We assured him that we were not concerned and were just there to enjoy a beautiful Sunday afternoon on the course. From the moment I watched her first drive soar 150 yards, down the middle, I knew we needn’t have worried either way. She played the entire 18 holes with resolve and energy, far exceeding myself, 30 years younger and absent hip surgery. We all have heard that staying active will keep you young but I was never more assured of this than on that day.

I recently traveled back home to spend a couple of weeks with an 88-year-old relative. She hadn’t been doing well and wanted to start the process of considering assisted living options. Aside from some minor afflictions, her overall health is good, according to her doctors. She had recently suffered an infection that was painful and produced frightening symptoms affecting her mental state. It all had left her weak and tired, leading her to believe she needed around-the-clock care. But, I saw her start to get stronger during my stay and came to believe that there was a better answer for her. By pushing herself to get on the treadmill and do some strength training daily she could very well retain some strength and vigor. Having loved ones come by daily, for light housecleaning, food preparation, and to combat loneliness may prolong her independence and this became the course of action.

These two scenarios show ways in which we could have some control over our aging process. Not only how we look, but how we live and feel. Although genetics play a big role, and illness and disease are sometimes unavoidable, I think we can definitely make a difference and tip the scales in our favor. Diet and exercise are two important factors and the ones we hear the most about but the mental aspect is equally as significant. Taking care of our mental health and keeping a positive attitude regarding our abilities can play a huge part in staying on the younger side of our true age. If we begin a healthy aging lifestyle in our 50s and 60s, it will go a long way in keeping us engaged and happy as we approach elderliness.

We all strive to be shiny, happy people, but the truth is, this can become more of a challenge as we get older. We may start to experience aches, pains, and other indignities that come with age. Our bodies seem to be turning on us while the world around us changes and rarely to our standards. But there are ways in which to avoid the “Grumpy Old Man” syndrome. As we approach and surpass mid-life we should work towards lightening our load. Letting go of worries, guilts, and regrets which keep us bogged down is crucial. These toxic emotions are the biggest hindrance to our peace of mind and the weight can age us beyond our years. Changing a line of thinking which has existed over many years is not always easy but there are ways to help recondition our minds. Meditation, self-help books, and spiritual guidance are just a few. Remaining happy and “light” is one of the surest ways to keep us young.

We are all designed differently and what brings us joy varies from person to person. For me, golf provides the perfect balance of physical, mental, and social engagement which is a proven formula for healthy aging. The fresh air and sunshine are also beneficial. Yoga classes are another way I combine fitness and social interaction and I have recently joined a walking group. Spending time with others is essential to emotional well-being. It’s important to keep in mind that although early retirement may seem appealing, it can also age you quicker if you don’t have a plan in place for keeping your mind, body, and soul active on a daily basis.

From what I have seen and experienced I believe I can make a difference in my aging process. I remind myself often that I have this control and with some hard work and a little luck, I too will still be swinging a golf club at 85.